Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

1 TIMOTHY 3:11KJV
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What does 1 Timothy 3:11 mean?

1 Timothy 3:11 says that the wives of church leaders must be dignified, not given to gossip, self-controlled, and trustworthy in every way. The verse sets out qualities expected of women connected to church leadership, focusing on character and reliability.

Paul is writing to Timothy, a young leader in the early church, giving instructions about who should serve in important roles. In this verse, Paul shifts attention to the wives of deacons or possibly women serving in a similar capacity, emphasizing that their behavior and reputation matter for the health of the church community.

The Greek behind 1 Timothy 3:11

  • "wives" (γυναῖκας, gynaikas): This word can mean "wives" or "women" in Greek. The choice shapes whether Paul is talking about deacons’ wives or women serving as deacons themselves.
  • "grave" (σεμνάς, semnas): This word means dignified or worthy of respect. It points to a seriousness and honor in how these women carry themselves.
  • "slanderers" (διαβόλους, diabolous): This is the same word used elsewhere for "devil" and means accuser or slanderer. Here, it warns against spreading harmful talk or rumors.
  • "sober" (νηφαλίους, nēphalious): This means self-controlled or clear-minded, not just about alcohol but about being steady and thoughtful.
  • "faithful" (πιστάς, pistas): This means trustworthy or reliable, someone who can be counted on in all areas.

Why 1 Timothy 3:11 matters

  • The verse highlights that the character of women connected to church leadership is just as important as that of the men, showing a shared standard of integrity.
  • The use of the Greek word for "wives" or "women" has led to discussion about whether Paul is describing a special group of women leaders, which shapes how some churches understand women's roles.
  • This instruction is part of a larger section about church order, showing that the early Christian community valued not just ability, but also personal character and reputation.

Where else these words appear

“sober” Greek G3524 · used in 3 verses

  • 1 Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
  • Titus 2:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.

“grave” Greek G4586 · used in 4 verses

  • Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
  • 1 Timothy 3:8 Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;
  • Titus 2:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.

“so” Greek G5615 · used in 17 verses

  • Matthew 20:5 Again he went out about the sixth and ninth hour, and did likewise.
  • Mark 14:31 But he spake the more vehemently, If I should die with thee, I will not deny thee in any wise. Likewise also said they all.
  • 1 Corinthians 11:25 After the same manner also he took the cup, when he had supped, saying, This cup is the new testament in my blood: this do ye, as oft as ye drink it, in remembrance of me.

“slanderers” Greek G1228 · used in 36 verses

  • Matthew 4:1 Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.
  • Luke 8:12 Those by the way side are they that hear; then cometh the devil, and taketh away the word out of their hearts, lest they should believe and be saved.
  • Titus 2:3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;