And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.

GENESIS 29:19KJV
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What does Genesis 29:19 mean?

Genesis 29:19 records Laban telling Jacob that he would rather give his daughter to Jacob as a wife than to another man, and invites Jacob to stay with him. Laban’s words show his approval of Jacob as a potential son-in-law and set the stage for Jacob to remain and work for Rachel’s hand in marriage.

In this scene, Laban is speaking directly to Jacob, who has come to stay with his relatives and has fallen in love with Rachel, Laban’s daughter. Laban’s statement is both practical and strategic, as it keeps Jacob—an industrious and trustworthy relative—close by. This verse is part of the negotiation that leads to Jacob agreeing to work for Laban for seven years in exchange for marrying Rachel.

The Hebrew behind Genesis 29:19

  • The word "better" is טוֹב (tov), which often means "good" or "preferable." Laban is expressing that, from his perspective, it is a more favorable or desirable arrangement for Jacob to marry his daughter.
  • The verb "abide" is יָשַׁב (yashav), meaning "to dwell" or "to stay." Laban is inviting Jacob to settle in and remain with him, not just as a guest but as someone who will take on a lasting role in the household.

Why Genesis 29:19 matters

  • This verse clarifies that Laban is not simply giving permission but actively prefers Jacob as a son-in-law over an unknown outsider, which highlights the importance of family ties and alliances in ancient times.
  • The verse sets up the coming events, where Laban’s words will contrast with his later actions, adding a layer of dramatic irony for readers familiar with the story.
  • Understanding Laban’s motivation helps explain why Jacob agrees to work for seven years, showing how marriage arrangements were often tied to labor and family negotiations in the culture of Genesis.

Where else these words appear

“Laban” Hebrew H3837 · used in 47 verses

  • Genesis 24:29 And Rebekah had a brother, and his name was Laban: and Laban ran out unto the man, unto the well.
  • Genesis 29:25 And it came to pass, that in the morning, behold, it was Leah: and he said to Laban, What is this thou hast done unto me? did not I serve with thee for Rachel? wherefore then hast thou beguiled me?
  • Genesis 31:24 And God came to Laban the Syrian in a dream by night, and said unto him, Take heed that thou speak not to Jacob either good or bad.