A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches.

PROVERBS 11:16KJV
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What does Proverbs 11:16 mean?

Proverbs 11:16 says that a gracious woman gains and keeps respect, while strong men hold on to wealth. The verse sets up a contrast between the lasting value of honor earned through kindness and the temporary security of riches gained by force or strength.

Proverbs is a collection of wise sayings, often contrasting two types of people or outcomes. Here, the writer (traditionally Solomon) points out that a woman known for her grace and kindness (not just outward charm, but deep character) is honored by others. In contrast, men who are strong or forceful may gather wealth, but the respect that comes from graciousness is highlighted as something different and perhaps more lasting.

The Hebrew behind Proverbs 11:16

  • "gracious" (חֵן, ḥēn): This word means favor, charm, or grace. In this context, it describes a woman whose character draws positive attention and goodwill from others, not just outward beauty.
  • "retaineth" (תִּתְמֹךְ, titmokh): This word means to hold fast, support, or keep. The idea is not just gaining honor, but holding onto it over time.
  • "honour" (כָּבוֹד, kavod): This word often means glory, respect, or weightiness. It suggests a deep, lasting kind of respect, not just fleeting praise.
  • "strong" (עָרִיץ, aritz): This word means mighty, powerful, or even violent. It contrasts with "gracious" by focusing on force or power rather than character.
  • "retain" (יֹתְרוּ, yotru): Used for the men, this word also means to keep or hold onto, but here it is applied to material wealth.
  • "riches" (עֹשֶׁר, osher): This word means wealth or material possessions, highlighting what the strong men are able to keep.

Why Proverbs 11:16 matters

  • Proverbs 11:16 clarifies that honor and respect are not the same as wealth; one is earned by character, the other by power or force.
  • The verse challenges the idea that strength or might is the only way to achieve lasting value, lifting up graciousness as a quality that brings its own reward.
  • In the wider context of Proverbs, this verse fits a pattern of showing that wisdom and virtue often bring rewards that are deeper and more enduring than material gain.

Where else these words appear

“retaineth” Hebrew H8551 · used in 20 verses

  • Genesis 48:17 And when Joseph saw that his father laid his right hand upon the head of Ephraim, it displeased him: and he held up his father's hand, to remove it from Ephraim's head unto Manasseh's head.
  • Psalms 63:8 My soul followeth hard after thee: thy right hand upholdeth me.
  • Proverbs 29:23 A man's pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.

“strong” Hebrew H6184 · used in 20 verses

  • Job 6:23 Or, Deliver me from the enemy's hand? or, Redeem me from the hand of the mighty?
  • Isaiah 13:11 And I will punish the world for their evil, and the wicked for their iniquity; and I will cause the arrogancy of the proud to cease, and will lay low the haughtiness of the terrible.
  • Isaiah 49:25 But thus saith the LORD, Even the captives of the mighty shall be taken away, and the prey of the terrible shall be delivered: for I will contend with him that contendeth with thee, and I will save thy children.

“riches” Hebrew H6239 · used in 36 verses

  • Genesis 31:16 For all the riches which God hath taken from our father, that is ours, and our children's: now then, whatsoever God hath said unto thee, do.
  • 2 Chronicles 18:1 Now Jehoshaphat had riches and honour in abundance, and joined affinity with Ahab.
  • Proverbs 22:1 A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.

“gracious” Hebrew H2580 · used in 67 verses

  • Genesis 6:8 But Noah found grace in the eyes of the LORD.
  • Numbers 11:11 And Moses said unto the LORD, Wherefore hast thou afflicted thy servant? and wherefore have I not found favour in thy sight, that thou layest the burden of all this people upon me?
  • Esther 7:3 Then Esther the queen answered and said, If I have found favour in thy sight, O king, and if it please the king, let my life be given me at my petition, and my people at my request: