My lovers and my friends stand aloof from my sore; and my kinsmen stand afar off.

PSALMS 38:11KJV
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What does Psalms 38:11 mean?

Psalms 38:11 describes how the writer’s closest loved ones and friends keep their distance from him during his suffering, and even his relatives stay far away. The verse shows the deep loneliness and isolation the speaker feels when he is in pain.

King David is speaking in this psalm, describing a time of personal distress, likely due to illness or trouble. He notes that those who would normally be close—his “lovers,” “friends,” and “kinsmen”—are not offering support but instead are avoiding him. This highlights not just physical suffering, but also the emotional pain of abandonment by those he trusted most.

The Hebrew behind Psalms 38:11

  • “lovers” (אָהַב, ’ahav): This word often means those who love or are dearly loved, sometimes used for close companions or even romantic partners. Here, it stresses that even those with deep affection for David have withdrawn.
  • “friends” (רֵעַ, re‘a): This term refers to companions or associates, suggesting that not just intimate loved ones but also ordinary friends are keeping away.
  • “sore” (נֶגַע, nega‘): This word means a physical blow, wound, or plague. It shows that David’s suffering is visible and severe, possibly making others afraid to come near.
  • “kinsmen” (קָרוֹב, qarov): This word means those who are near by blood, like family members. Their distance intensifies the sense of abandonment, as even family does not come close.

Why Psalms 38:11 matters

  • Psalms 38:11 clarifies that David’s suffering is not just physical but also deeply relational—he feels abandoned by everyone, even those expected to care for him.
  • The verse connects to the wider psalm, where David is honest about his pain and sin, showing that feelings of isolation can be part of spiritual struggle.
  • This verse helps readers understand that even faithful people can feel deserted in hard times, and that such feelings are honestly expressed in the Bible.

Where else these words appear

“from” Hebrew H5048 · used in 23 verses

  • Genesis 21:16 And she went, and sat her down over against him a good way off, as it were a bowshot: for she said, Let me not see the death of the child. And she sat over against him, and lift up her voice, and wept.
  • 2 Samuel 22:25 Therefore the LORD hath recompensed me according to my righteousness; according to my cleanness in his eye sight.
  • Nehemiah 11:22 The overseer also of the Levites at Jerusalem was Uzzi the son of Bani, the son of Hashabiah, the son of Mattaniah, the son of Micha. Of the sons of Asaph, the singers were over the business of the house of God.

“sore” Hebrew H5061 · used in 62 verses

  • Genesis 12:17 And the LORD plagued Pharaoh and his house with great plagues because of Sarai Abram's wife.
  • Leviticus 13:43 Then the priest shall look upon it: and, behold, if the rising of the sore be white reddish in his bald head, or in his bald forehead, as the leprosy appeareth in the skin of the flesh;
  • Leviticus 14:36 Then the priest shall command that they empty the house, before the priest go into it to see the plague, that all that is in the house be not made unclean: and afterward the priest shall go in to see the house:

“kinsmen” Hebrew H7138 · used in 76 verses

  • Genesis 19:20 Behold now, this city is near to flee unto, and it is a little one: Oh, let me escape thither,( is it not a little one?) and my soul shall live.
  • 1 Kings 21:2 And Ahab spake unto Naboth, saying, Give me thy vineyard, that I may have it for a garden of herbs, because it is near unto my house: and I will give thee for it a better vineyard than it; or, if it seem good to thee, I will give thee the worth of it in money.
  • Isaiah 55:6 Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:

“off” Hebrew H7350 · used in 84 verses

  • Genesis 22:4 Then on the third day Abraham lifted up his eyes, and saw the place afar off.
  • 2 Chronicles 6:36 If they sin against thee,(for there is no man which sinneth not,) and thou be angry with them, and deliver them over before their enemies, and they carry them away captives unto a land far off or near;
  • Isaiah 37:26 Hast thou not heard long ago, how I have done it; and of ancient times, that I have formed it? now have I brought it to pass, that thou shouldest be to lay waste defenced cities into ruinous heaps.