Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

1 CORINTHIANS 7:5KJV
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What does 1 Corinthians 7:5 mean?

1 Corinthians 7:5 tells married couples not to deprive each other of physical intimacy, unless both agree to abstain for a short time to focus on prayer and fasting, and then to come together again so that they are not tempted by lack of self-control. The verse emphasizes mutual consent and the importance of returning to each other to avoid temptation.

Paul is writing to the Christians in Corinth, addressing questions about marriage and sexual relations. He instructs husbands and wives to consider each other's needs, only separating for spiritual reasons if both agree, and warns that prolonged abstinence can make them vulnerable to temptation. This guidance fits into a larger discussion about marriage, self-control, and spiritual priorities.

The Greek behind 1 Corinthians 7:5

  • The word "defraud" comes from the Greek ἀποστερεῖτε (aposteréite), often understood as "deprive" or "withhold." This highlights that Paul is talking about withholding something that is due to the other person in marriage.
  • The phrase "with consent" uses the Greek συμφώνου (sumphōnou), meaning "by mutual agreement." This stresses that any decision to abstain must be made together, not unilaterally.
  • The word "incontinency" is from ἀκρασία (akrasia), meaning "lack of self-control." Paul recognizes human weakness and the practical need for physical intimacy in marriage.

Why 1 Corinthians 7:5 matters

  • This verse clears up the idea that spiritual pursuits should always come before physical needs in marriage; Paul says both matter and must be balanced with care and agreement.
  • The emphasis on mutual consent and returning to intimacy shows that marriage is a partnership, not a one-sided relationship.
  • By warning about temptation, Paul connects practical marital advice to spiritual well-being, showing that everyday choices can have spiritual consequences.

Where else these words appear

“yourselves” Greek G4980 · used in 2 verses

  • Matthew 12:44 Then he saith, I will return into my house from whence I came out; and when he is come, he findeth it empty, swept, and garnished.

“incontinency” Greek G192 · used in 2 verses

  • Matthew 23:25 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye make clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within they are full of extortion and excess.

“except” Greek G1509 · used in 3 verses

  • Luke 9:13 But he said unto them, Give ye them to eat. And they said, We have no more but five loaves and two fishes; except we should go and buy meat for all this people.
  • 2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?

“ye” Greek G650 · used in 6 verses

  • Mark 10:19 Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.
  • 1 Corinthians 6:7 Now therefore there is utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye not rather take wrong? why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded?
  • 1 Timothy 6:5 Perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness: from such withdraw thyself.