He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

PROVERBS 13:24KJV
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What does Proverbs 13:24 mean?

Proverbs 13:24 says that a parent who withholds discipline from their child is acting as if they do not care for them, while a parent who loves their child will correct them early and consistently. The verse uses strong language to stress that loving discipline is an important part of raising children.

This proverb is part of a collection of wise sayings traditionally attributed to Solomon, offering practical guidance for daily life. The verse addresses parents, highlighting the value of timely correction as an expression of genuine love and concern for a child’s well-being, not as harshness or cruelty.

The Hebrew behind Proverbs 13:24

  • "spareth" (חָשַׂךְ, chasakh) means to hold back or withhold. In this context, it refers to not giving needed correction.
  • "rod" (שֵׁבֶט, shevet) often means a staff or stick, but in Proverbs it is a symbol for discipline or correction, not just physical punishment.
  • "chasteneth" (מוּסָר, musar) means to instruct, correct, or discipline, which can include teaching and guiding, not only punishment.
  • "betimes" (שָׁחַר, shachar) means to do something early or promptly, emphasizing the importance of timely discipline rather than waiting until problems grow.

Why Proverbs 13:24 matters

  • This verse clarifies that discipline, when done out of love, is not the same as anger or rejection; it is an act of genuine care.
  • The proverb uses strong contrasts ("hateth" vs. "loveth") to make the point clear, but the language is meant to stress the seriousness of neglecting a child’s moral development.
  • Understanding the Hebrew words shows that the focus is on guidance and timely correction, not just physical punishment, which helps prevent misunderstandings about the verse’s intent.

Where else these words appear

“betimes” Hebrew H7836 · used in 12 verses

  • Job 7:21 And why dost thou not pardon my transgression, and take away mine iniquity? for now shall I sleep in the dust; and thou shalt seek me in the morning, but I shall not be.
  • Psalms 63:1 A Psalm of David, when he was in the wilderness of Judah. O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is;
  • Proverbs 8:17 I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me.

“spareth” Hebrew H2820 · used in 28 verses

  • Genesis 20:6 And God said unto him in a dream, Yea, I know that thou didst this in the integrity of thy heart; for I also withheld thee from sinning against me: therefore suffered I thee not to touch her.
  • Job 16:5 But I would strengthen you with my mouth, and the moving of my lips should asswage your grief.
  • Proverbs 11:24 There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty.

“chasteneth” Hebrew H4148 · used in 50 verses

  • Deuteronomy 11:2 And know ye this day: for I speak not with your children which have not known, and which have not seen the chastisement of the LORD your God, his greatness, his mighty hand, and his stretched out arm,
  • Proverbs 7:22 He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;
  • Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

“hateth” Hebrew H8130 · used in 139 verses

  • Genesis 24:60 And they blessed Rebekah, and said unto her, Thou art our sister, be thou the mother of thousands of millions, and let thy seed possess the gate of those which hate them.
  • Esther 9:1 Now in the twelfth month, that is, the month Adar, on the thirteenth day of the same, when the king's commandment and his decree drew near to be put in execution, in the day that the enemies of the Jews hoped to have power over them,(though it was turned to the contrary, that the Jews had rule over them that hated them;)
  • Proverbs 1:22 How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity? and the scorners delight in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge?