Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.

PROVERBS 13:10KJV
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What does Proverbs 13:10 mean?

Proverbs 13:10 teaches that arguments and strife are caused by pride, but those who listen to advice show wisdom. The verse contrasts the trouble that comes from arrogance with the benefit of being open to guidance.

This proverb comes from the collection of wise sayings traditionally attributed to Solomon, directed to anyone seeking practical wisdom for daily life. The verse points out that pride—thinking too highly of oneself—leads to conflict, while humility and willingness to accept counsel bring understanding and peace.

The Hebrew behind Proverbs 13:10

  • The word for "pride" is זָדוֹן (zadōn), which often means arrogance or presumptuousness. This highlights that the kind of pride causing conflict is not just self-respect, but a stubborn, inflated sense of self.
  • "Contention" is מַצָּה (matsāh), meaning strife or quarrel. The verse links this directly to pride, suggesting that most disputes have roots in someone's unwillingness to yield or admit fault.
  • "Well advised" comes from יָעַץ (yā‘ats), meaning to consult or take counsel. Wisdom is shown by those who seek and accept advice, not just those who have knowledge.

Why Proverbs 13:10 matters

  • Proverbs 13:10 clarifies that conflict is not random or unavoidable; it often starts with someone's pride, which is a helpful insight for understanding and resolving disputes.
  • The verse emphasizes the value of humility and teachability, showing that wisdom is not just about knowing facts but about being open to others' input.
  • In the broader context of Proverbs, this saying fits the theme that wise living is rooted in character—especially humility—rather than just cleverness or strength.

Where else these words appear

“contention” Hebrew H4683 · used in 3 verses

  • Proverbs 17:19 He loveth transgression that loveth strife: and he that exalteth his gate seeketh destruction.
  • Isaiah 58:4 Behold, ye fast for strife and debate, and to smite with the fist of wickedness: ye shall not fast as ye do this day, to make your voice to be heard on high.

“pride” Hebrew H2087 · used in 11 verses

  • Deuteronomy 17:12 And the man that will do presumptuously, and will not hearken unto the priest that standeth to minister there before the LORD thy God, or unto the judge, even that man shall die: and thou shalt put away the evil from Israel.
  • Proverbs 11:2 When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.
  • Jeremiah 50:31 Behold, I am against thee, O thou most proud, saith the Lord GOD of hosts: for thy day is come, the time that I will visit thee.

“advised” Hebrew H3289 · used in 74 verses

  • Exodus 18:19 Hearken now unto my voice, I will give thee counsel, and God shall be with thee: Be thou for the people to God-ward, that thou mayest bring the causes unto God:
  • 2 Chronicles 22:4 Wherefore he did evil in the sight of the LORD like the house of Ahab: for they were his counsellors after the death of his father to his destruction.
  • Isaiah 3:3 The captain of fifty, and the honourable man, and the counsellor, and the cunning artificer, and the eloquent orator.

“wisdom” Hebrew H2451 · used in 141 verses

  • Exodus 28:3 And thou shalt speak unto all that are wise hearted, whom I have filled with the spirit of wisdom, that they may make Aaron's garments to consecrate him, that he may minister unto me in the priest's office.
  • Job 28:20 Whence then cometh wisdom? and where is the place of understanding?
  • Proverbs 29:3 Whoso loveth wisdom rejoiceth his father: but he that keepeth company with harlots spendeth his substance.