And another said, I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.

LUKE 14:20KJV
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What does Luke 14:20 mean?

Luke 14:20 records a man excusing himself from attending a banquet by saying he has just married a wife and therefore cannot come. This verse shows someone giving a personal reason for declining an invitation, highlighting how people may prioritize their own circumstances over accepting an important offer.

Jesus is telling a parable to a group of people at a meal, using the story of a great banquet to illustrate how people respond to God's invitation. In this part of the story, the man’s excuse about marriage reflects how everyday commitments can become reasons for missing out on something significant. The verse fits into a series of similar excuses, showing how people often let ordinary life take precedence over spiritual opportunities.

The Greek behind Luke 14:20

  • γαμέω (gameō, "married"): This word means to marry or take a wife. Its use here emphasizes a major life event, suggesting the man sees his new marriage as a legitimate reason to decline the invitation.
  • διὰ τοῦτο (dia touto, "therefore"): This phrase means "because of this" or "for this reason." It highlights that the man’s marriage is presented as the direct cause for his refusal, not just a casual excuse.
  • οὐ δύναμαι (ou dynamai, "cannot"): This phrase means "I am not able." The man claims he is unable to come, not just unwilling, which adds a sense of finality or non-negotiability to his excuse.

Why Luke 14:20 matters

  • Luke 14:20 helps clarify that people often have what seem like good reasons for declining important invitations, but these reasons can still lead to missing out on something greater.
  • The verse highlights the personal nature of the excuses in Jesus’ parable, showing that even joyful or honorable events (like marriage) can become barriers to responding to God’s call.
  • In the context of the parable, this excuse is one of several, reinforcing the idea that many people allow ordinary life to distract them from deeper spiritual opportunities.

Where else these words appear

“married” Greek G1060 · used in 25 verses

  • Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
  • Mark 10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
  • 1 Corinthians 7:28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

“another” Greek G2087 · used in 94 verses

  • Matthew 6:24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
  • Luke 18:10 Two men went up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican.
  • Romans 8:39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.