But if her husband altogether hold his peace at her from day to day; then he establisheth all her vows, or all her bonds, which are upon her: he confirmeth them, because he held his peace at her in the day that he heard them.

NUMBERS 30:14KJV
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What does Numbers 30:14 mean?

Numbers 30:14 explains that if a husband stays silent and does not object to his wife's vows or promises over time, his silence counts as approval, and her vows stand as valid. The verse emphasizes that by not responding when he first hears about the vows, the husband confirms them.

In this passage, Moses is relaying God’s instructions to the Israelites about vows made by women, specifically wives. The focus is on the husband's responsibility: if he hears his wife's vow and says nothing day after day, his lack of objection means he accepts her commitment. This rule is part of a larger section about the seriousness of making vows and the authority structure within ancient Israelite households.

The Hebrew behind Numbers 30:14

  • "Altogether hold his peace" and "peace" use the Hebrew word חָרַשׁ (charash), which means to be silent or to keep quiet. The repetition stresses that the husband's ongoing silence is intentional and meaningful, not accidental.
  • "Establisheth" and "confirmeth" both use קוּם (qum), meaning to make something stand or to confirm. This shows that the husband's silence is not passive; it actively causes the vow to be upheld.
  • "Vows" is נֶדֶר (neder), meaning a solemn promise or vow, and "bonds" is אֵסָר (esar), meaning an obligation or binding oath. The verse treats both types of commitments with equal seriousness.

Why Numbers 30:14 matters

  • Numbers 30:14 clarifies that silence in this context is not neutrality; it is a deliberate act that has real consequences for the vows made.
  • The verse highlights the importance of communication and responsibility within marriage in ancient Israel, showing that both action and inaction have legal and spiritual effects.
  • This detail connects to the broader passage, which outlines the different ways vows could be affirmed or annulled, emphasizing the weight and binding nature of spoken commitments in Israelite society.

Where else these words appear

“bonds” Hebrew H632 · used in 10 verses

  • Numbers 30:2 If a man vow a vow unto the LORD, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth.
  • Numbers 30:5 But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.
  • Numbers 30:11 And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her, and disallowed her not: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.

“vows” Hebrew H5088 · used in 57 verses

  • Genesis 28:20 And Jacob vowed a vow, saying, If God will be with me, and will keep me in this way that I go, and will give me bread to eat, and raiment to put on,
  • Numbers 30:5 But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her.
  • 2 Samuel 15:8 For thy servant vowed a vow while I abode at Geshur in Syria, saying, If the LORD shall bring me again indeed to Jerusalem, then I will serve the LORD.

“altogether” Hebrew H2790 · used in 66 verses

  • Genesis 24:21 And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the LORD had made his journey prosperous or not.
  • Esther 7:4 For we are sold, I and my people, to be destroyed, to be slain, and to perish. But if we had been sold for bondmen and bondwomen, I had held my tongue, although the enemy could not countervail the king's damage.
  • Proverbs 6:18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,