And her husband went with her along weeping behind her to Bahurim. Then said Abner unto him, Go, return. And he returned.

2 SAMUEL 3:16KJV
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What does 2 Samuel 3:16 mean?

2 Samuel 3:16 describes a painful moment where a husband follows his wife, weeping, as she is taken away to another man, but is told to go back and does so. The verse highlights the emotional cost and personal consequences of political decisions made by powerful leaders.

In this scene, Abner is returning Michal, Saul’s daughter and David’s former wife, to David as part of a political agreement. Michal’s current husband, Paltiel, follows her in tears all the way to Bahurim until Abner, a military commander, tells him to turn back. The verse shows the deep human sorrow involved in these royal arrangements, which often disregarded personal relationships.

The Hebrew behind 2 Samuel 3:16

  • "Weeping" (בֹּכֶה, bokheh): This word emphasizes the genuine grief and emotional pain of Michal’s husband as he follows her. The text uses a strong term for crying, showing this is not a small or casual sadness.
  • "Behind" (אַחֲרֶיהָ, achareha): The word means "after her" or "behind her," painting a vivid picture of Paltiel trailing after Michal, unable to do anything but follow and mourn.
  • "Return" (שׁוּב, shuv): This word is used twice, once as a command from Abner and once as Paltiel’s response. It carries a sense of turning back or going home, marking the end of Paltiel’s hope and presence in Michal’s life.

Why 2 Samuel 3:16 matters

  • This verse reveals the personal cost of political alliances and decisions in ancient Israel, showing that even powerful people’s choices can deeply wound ordinary individuals.
  • The scene adds emotional depth to the narrative, reminding readers that biblical stories often involve real people with real feelings, not just historical or theological points.
  • The mention of Bahurim connects this episode to other significant events in David’s life, as Bahurim appears again later in the story, helping to tie the narrative together.

Where else these words appear

“Bahurim” Hebrew H980 · used in 5 verses

  • 2 Samuel 16:5 And when king David came to Bahurim, behold, thence came out a man of the family of the house of Saul, whose name was Shimei, the son of Gera: he came forth, and cursed still as he came.
  • 2 Samuel 17:18 Nevertheless a lad saw them, and told Absalom: but they went both of them away quickly, and came to a man's house in Bahurim, which had a well in his court; whither they went down.
  • 2 Samuel 19:16 And Shimei the son of Gera, a Benjamite, which was of Bahurim, hasted and came down with the men of Judah to meet king David.

“Abner” Hebrew H74 · used in 53 verses

  • 1 Samuel 14:50 And the name of Saul's wife was Ahinoam, the daughter of Ahimaaz: and the name of the captain of his host was Abner, the son of Ner, Saul's uncle.
  • 2 Samuel 2:23 Howbeit he refused to turn aside: wherefore Abner with the hinder end of the spear smote him under the fifth rib, that the spear came out behind him; and he fell down there, and died in the same place: and it came to pass, that as many as came to the place where Asahel fell down and died stood still.
  • 2 Samuel 3:22 And, behold, the servants of David and Joab came from pursuing a troop, and brought in a great spoil with them: but Abner was not with David in Hebron; for he had sent him away, and he was gone in peace.

“weeping” Hebrew H1058 · used in 100 verses

  • Genesis 21:16 And she went, and sat her down over against him a good way off, as it were a bowshot: for she said, Let me not see the death of the child. And she sat over against him, and lift up her voice, and wept.
  • Judges 20:26 Then all the children of Israel, and all the people, went up, and came unto the house of God, and wept, and sat there before the LORD, and fasted that day until even, and offered burnt offerings and peace offerings before the LORD.
  • Esther 8:3 And Esther spake yet again before the king, and fell down at his feet, and besought him with tears to put away the mischief of Haman the Agagite, and his device that he had devised against the Jews.