Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

PROVERBS 19:18KJV
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What does Proverbs 19:18 mean?

Proverbs 19:18 urges parents to discipline their children while there is still a chance for them to learn and change, warning not to hold back correction just because the child protests or suffers discomfort. The verse highlights the importance of timely guidance, even when it is difficult for both parent and child.

In the book of Proverbs, a wise teacher addresses young people and their families, offering practical advice for daily life. Here, the focus is on a parent's responsibility to correct a child (called "son" in the verse) before it is too late for the child to benefit. The verse recognizes that discipline can be emotionally hard for both the parent and the child, but stresses that loving correction is necessary for the child's good.

The Hebrew behind Proverbs 19:18

  • "Chasten" (יַסֵּר, yasser): This word means to discipline, instruct, or correct, not just to punish. It often carries the sense of teaching through correction, aiming for growth rather than just consequences.
  • "Hope" (תִּקְוָה, tiqvah): This word means expectation or a future possibility. The verse is urging action while there is still a real opportunity for the child to change.
  • "Soul" (נֶפֶשׁ, nefesh): This word refers to the inner self or life. The phrase "let not thy soul spare" means not to let your own feelings or reluctance stop you from necessary discipline.
  • "Crying" (מוּת, muth): The word here literally means "to die," but in this context, it is often understood as strong protest or distress—so the verse warns not to stop discipline just because the child reacts strongly.

Why Proverbs 19:18 matters

  • Proverbs 19:18 clarifies that discipline is an act of hope and care, not cruelty, and should be done while change is possible, not delayed until it is too late.
  • The verse addresses a common parental struggle: the temptation to avoid correction because it is emotionally painful to see a child upset, but reminds readers that loving discipline is necessary for a child's growth.
  • This proverb fits into the broader message of Proverbs about wisdom, responsibility, and the long-term well-being of the next generation, showing that true love sometimes means making hard choices for another's good.

Where else these words appear

“hope” Hebrew H8615 · used in 33 verses

  • Joshua 2:18 Behold, when we come into the land, thou shalt bind this line of scarlet thread in the window which thou didst let us down by: and thou shalt bring thy father, and thy mother, and thy brethren, and all thy father's household, home unto thee.
  • Job 14:7 For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease.
  • Proverbs 23:18 For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off.

“Chasten” Hebrew H3256 · used in 38 verses

  • Leviticus 26:18 And if ye will not yet for all this hearken unto me, then I will punish you seven times more for your sins.
  • Job 4:3 Behold, thou hast instructed many, and thou hast strengthened the weak hands.
  • Proverbs 31:1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.

“is” Hebrew H3426 · used in 129 verses

  • Genesis 18:24 Peradventure there be fifty righteous within the city: wilt thou also destroy and not spare the place for the fifty righteous that are therein?
  • 1 Samuel 21:8 And David said unto Ahimelech, And is there not here under thine hand spear or sword? for I have neither brought my sword nor my weapons with me, because the king's business required haste.
  • Psalms 73:11 And they say, How doth God know? and is there knowledge in the most High?