He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool hath no joy.

PROVERBS 17:21KJV
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What does Proverbs 17:21 mean?

Proverbs 17:21 says that a parent who has a foolish child will experience grief and sadness, rather than happiness. The verse highlights the pain and disappointment that comes to a father when his child acts foolishly.

This proverb is part of a collection of wise sayings traditionally attributed to Solomon, aimed at teaching practical wisdom for daily life. The verse uses strong language to show how deeply a child’s foolishness can affect a parent, especially in a culture where family honor and legacy were highly valued. The focus is not on blaming the parent, but on the real emotional impact of a child’s choices.

The Hebrew behind Proverbs 17:21

  • "begetteth" (יָלַד, yalad): This word means to father or give birth to. The proverb is directly addressing the experience of a parent, not just any adult.
  • "fool" (כְּסִיל, kesil): This word often refers to someone who is not just lacking intelligence, but who rejects wisdom and discipline. It carries a sense of stubbornness or moral failure, not just simple ignorance.
  • "sorrow" (תוּגָה, tugah): This word means grief, distress, or deep emotional pain. The verse emphasizes that the parent’s suffering is not minor but deeply felt.
  • "fool" (נָבָל, nabal): This second word for "fool" is even stronger, often describing someone who is morally corrupt or disgraceful, not just unwise. The use of two different words for "fool" in one verse highlights the seriousness of the problem.
  • "joy" (שָׂמַח, samach): This word means gladness or rejoicing. The verse contrasts the expected joy of parenthood with the reality of sorrow when a child is foolish.

Why Proverbs 17:21 matters

  • Proverbs 17:21 clears up the idea that foolishness is just a minor flaw; in this context, it brings real pain and disappointment to a family.
  • The verse emphasizes the emotional connection between parents and children, showing that a child’s choices have lasting effects on the whole family.
  • This proverb fits into a larger section of Proverbs that warns about the consequences of foolishness, not just for the individual but for those around them.

Where else these words appear

“sorrow” Hebrew H8424 · used in 4 verses

  • Psalms 119:28 My soul melteth for heaviness: strengthen thou me according unto thy word.
  • Proverbs 10:1 The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.
  • Proverbs 14:13 Even in laughter the heart is sorrowful; and the end of that mirth is heaviness.

“fool” Hebrew H5036 · used in 18 verses

  • Deuteronomy 32:6 Do ye thus requite the LORD, O foolish people and unwise? is not he thy father that hath bought thee? hath he not made thee, and established thee?
  • Job 30:8 They were children of fools, yea, children of base men: they were viler than the earth.
  • Proverbs 17:7 Excellent speech becometh not a fool: much less do lying lips a prince.

“fool” Hebrew H3684 · used in 69 verses

  • Psalms 49:10 For he seeth that wise men die, likewise the fool and the brutish person perish, and leave their wealth to others.
  • Proverbs 15:20 A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man despiseth his mother.
  • Proverbs 26:10 The great God that formed all things both rewardeth the fool, and rewardeth transgressors.

“joy” Hebrew H8055 · used in 145 verses

  • Exodus 4:14 And the anger of the LORD was kindled against Moses, and he said, Is not Aaron the Levite thy brother? I know that he can speak well. And also, behold, he cometh forth to meet thee: and when he seeth thee, he will be glad in his heart.
  • Psalms 33:21 For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his holy name.
  • Proverbs 15:30 The light of the eyes rejoiceth the heart: and a good report maketh the bones fat.