And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister.

2 SAMUEL 13:11KJV
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What does 2 Samuel 13:11 mean?

2 Samuel 13:11 describes the moment when Amnon, after Tamar brings him food, grabs her and demands that she sleep with him, calling her "my sister." This verse marks the beginning of Amnon’s assault on Tamar, showing his intentions clearly and setting up the tragic events that follow.

In this scene, Amnon is speaking to Tamar, his half-sister, who has just entered his room to serve him food while he pretends to be ill. The verse uses direct and forceful language to show Amnon’s aggressive actions and his disregard for Tamar’s will. This moment is a turning point in the story, highlighting the danger Tamar faces and the seriousness of Amnon’s intentions.

The Hebrew behind 2 Samuel 13:11

  • "hold" (חָזַק, ḥāzaq): This word often means to seize or take hold of with strength. Here, it emphasizes that Amnon physically overpowers Tamar, not just speaking but acting with force.
  • "lie" (שָׁכַב, shakav): This word is commonly used in the Hebrew Bible for sexual relations, sometimes consensual but often not. In this context, it makes clear that Amnon’s demand is sexual in nature.
  • "sister" (אָחוֹת, ʾachot): Amnon addresses Tamar as "my sister," which underlines both the closeness of their family relationship and the wrongness of his demand. The use of this word highlights the betrayal and the taboo nature of his request.

Why 2 Samuel 13:11 matters

  • This verse makes clear that Amnon’s actions are premeditated and forceful, not a misunderstanding or accidental crossing of boundaries.
  • The language used shows the gravity of the situation and the vulnerability of Tamar, setting the stage for the rest of the chapter’s tragic events.
  • Understanding the words used for "hold," "lie," and "sister" helps clarify that this is not just a story about lust, but about abuse of power, family betrayal, and the violation of trust.

Where else these words appear

“sister” Hebrew H269 · used in 104 verses

  • Genesis 4:22 And Zillah, she also bare Tubalcain, an instructer of every artificer in brass and iron: and the sister of Tubalcain was Naamah.
  • Leviticus 18:13 Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister: for she is thy mother's near kinswoman.
  • Job 1:4 And his sons went and feasted in their houses, every one his day; and sent and called for their three sisters to eat and to drink with them.

“brought” Hebrew H5066 · used in 112 verses

  • Genesis 18:23 And Abraham drew near, and said, Wilt thou also destroy the righteous with the wicked?
  • Deuteronomy 25:9 Then shall his brother's wife come unto him in the presence of the elders, and loose his shoe from off his foot, and spit in his face, and shall answer and say, So shall it be done unto that man that will not build up his brother's house.
  • 2 Kings 4:5 So she went from him, and shut the door upon her and upon her sons, who brought the vessels to her; and she poured out.