I behaved myself as though he had been my friend or brother: I bowed down heavily, as one that mourneth for his mother.

PSALMS 35:14KJV
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What does Psalms 35:14 mean?

Psalms 35:14 describes how the writer, David, acted with deep care and sorrow for someone who was in trouble, treating that person as if he were a close friend or even a brother. David says he grieved so deeply for this person that it was like mourning the loss of his own mother.

David is speaking about his own actions toward people who later became his enemies. He is explaining that, even when they were in distress, he showed them kindness and heartfelt compassion, not just polite concern. The verse uses strong family language to show how genuine and personal David’s feelings were, highlighting the depth of his empathy and the pain he felt on their behalf.

The Hebrew behind Psalms 35:14

  • "Behaved" (הָלַךְ, halakh): This word often means "to walk" or "to conduct oneself." Here, it stresses that David’s actions were deliberate and ongoing, not just a passing feeling.
  • "Friend" (רֵעַ, re'a): This word means a close companion or neighbor, showing David’s sense of personal connection.
  • "Brother" (אָח, ach): Refers to a literal brother, underlining the family-level loyalty and affection David showed.
  • "Bowed down" (שָׁחַח, shakhakh) and "heavily" (קָדַר, qadar): These words together describe a posture and feeling of deep mourning or being weighed down with grief.
  • "Mourneth" (אָבֵל, avel): This word is used for someone in deep mourning, especially after a death, which helps us see just how intense David’s sorrow was.
  • "Mother" (אֵם, em): Mentioning mourning for a mother highlights the most personal and heartfelt kind of grief in that culture.

Why Psalms 35:14 matters

  • This verse clears up any idea that David’s kindness was shallow or just for show; he truly felt deep pain for those who later turned against him.
  • The verse emphasizes the contrast between David’s compassion and the way he was treated in return, which is a major theme in the whole psalm.
  • Understanding the strong family language helps us see the depth of betrayal David experienced, making the rest of his prayer for justice more understandable.

Where else these words appear

“mourneth” Hebrew H57 · used in 8 verses

  • Genesis 37:35 And all his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted; and he said, For I will go down into the grave unto my son mourning. Thus his father wept for him.
  • Job 29:25 I chose out their way, and sat chief, and dwelt as a king in the army, as one that comforteth the mourners.
  • Isaiah 61:2 To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn;

“heavily” Hebrew H6937 · used in 17 verses

  • 1 Kings 18:45 And it came to pass in the mean while, that the heaven was black with clouds and wind, and there was a great rain. And Ahab rode, and went to Jezreel.
  • Psalms 42:9 I will say unto God my rock, Why hast thou forgotten me? why go I mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?
  • Ezekiel 31:15 Thus saith the Lord GOD; In the day when he went down to the grave I caused a mourning: I covered the deep for him, and I restrained the floods thereof, and the great waters were stayed: and I caused Lebanon to mourn for him, and all the trees of the field fainted for him.

“down” Hebrew H7817 · used in 21 verses

  • Job 9:13 If God will not withdraw his anger, the proud helpers do stoop under him.
  • Psalms 42:11 Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.
  • Isaiah 2:17 And the loftiness of man shall be bowed down, and the haughtiness of men shall be made low: and the LORD alone shall be exalted in that day.